The Story Of Sand And Stone...

Story of Sand 'n Stone...
A story tells that two friends were walking through the Desert.

During some point of the journey they had an argument,
'n one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt,
but without saying anything,
wrote in the sand: "TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE."

They kept on walking until they found an oasis,
where they decided to take a bath.
The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire 'n started drowning,
But
the friend saved him.

After he recovered from the near drowning,
he wrote on a stone: "TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE."

The friend who had slapped 'n saved his best friend asked him,"After I hurt you,
You wrote in the sand 'n now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied:
"When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away.
But,
When someone does something good for us,
we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."

Learn to Write your Hurts in the Sand 'n To Carve Your Benifits In Stone...

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
An hour to Appreciate them,
A day to love them,
But
An Entire Life to forget them.

Send this phrase to the people you'll never forget.
If you don't send it to me,

it means you're in a hurry 'n that you've forgotten your friends.
Take the time to live!

Do not value the THINGS you have in your Life.
But Value
WHO you have in your life!

Life's short. If you don't look Around once in a while, you might miss it.. !

If you Love Someone...

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If you Love Someone...
If you love some one because you think that he or she is really gorgeous....
Then it's not love .. it's "Infatuation"

If you love some one because you think that you shouldn't leave him because others think that you shouldn't ...
Then it's not love.. it's "Compromise"

If you love some one because you have been kissed by him...
Then it's not love.. it's "Inferiority Complex"

If you love some one because you cannot leave him thinking that it would hurt his feelings ..
Then it's not love .. it's "Charity"

If you love some one because you share every thing with him ...
Then it's not love... it's "Friendship"
BUT...
If you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stable 'n you cry for him ... that's "LOVE"

If you get attracted to other people but stay with him without any regrets... that's "LOVE"

If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn't want to ... that's"LOVE"

Which Baby are you ?

Which Baby are you ?


Jan

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JANUARY BABY

Pretty/handsome. Loves to dress up. Easily bored.
Fussy. Seldom shows emotions. Takes time to
recover when hurt. Sensitive. Down-to-Earth.
Stubborn. Repost this in 5 mins and you will meet
someone new in 8 days that will perfectly balance
your personality.
 
 
 
Feb
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FEBRUARY BABY
Abstract thoughts. Loves reality and abstract.
Intelligent and clever. Changing personality.
Attractive. sexiest out of everyone.
Temperamental. Quiet, shy and humble. Honest
and loyal. Determined to reach goals. Loves
freedom. Rebellious when restricted. Loves
aggressiveness. Too sensitive and easily hurt.
Gets angry really easily but does not show it.
Dislikes unnecessary things. Loves making friends
but rarely shows it. Horny. Daring and stubborn.
Ambitious. Realizing dreams and hopes. Sharp.
Loves entertainment and leisure. Romantic on the
inside not outside. Superstitious and ludicrous.
Spendthrift. Tries to learn to show emotions.
Repost this in 5 mins and you will talk to someone
new and realize that you are a perfect match.
 
 
 
Mar
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MARCH BABY
Attractive personality. sexy. Affectionate Shy and
reserved. Secretive. Naturally honest, generous
and sympathetic. Loves peace and serenity.
Sensitive to others. Great kisser. Easily angered.
Trustworthy. Appreciative and returns kindness.
Hardly shows emotions. Tends to bottle up
feelings. Observant and assesses others.If you
repost this in the next 5 mins, you will meet your
new love in 8 days.
 
 
 
Apr
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APRIL BABY
Suave and compromising. Funny and humorous.
Stubborn. Very talkative. Calm and cool. Kind and
sympathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal. Does
work well with others. Very confident. Sensitive.
Positive Attitude. Thinking generous. Good
memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look
for information. Able to cheer everyone up and/or
make them laugh. Able to motivate oneself and
others. Understanding. Fun to be around.
Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive.
Boy/girl crazy. Loves sports, music, leisure and
travelling. Systematic. hot but has brains. If you
repost this in 5 mins, a cutie that's caught your eye
will introduce themselves and you will realize that
you are very much alike in the next 2 days.
 
 
May
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MAY BABY
Stubborn and hard-hearted . Strong-willed and
highly motivated. Sharp thoughts. Easily angered.
Attracts others and loves attention. Deep feelings.
Beautiful physically and mentally. Firm Standpoint.
Needs no motivation. Shy towards opposite sex.
Easily consoled. Systematic (left brain). Loves to
dream. Strong clairvoyance. Understanding.
Sickness usually in the ear and neck. Good
imagination. Good physical. Weak breathing. Loves
literature and the arts. Loves travelling. Dislike
being at home. Restless. Not having many children.
Hardworking. High spirited. If you repost this in the
next 5 minutes, you will become close to someone
you do not speak to much in the next 4 days.
 
 
Jun
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JUNE BABY
You've got the best personality and are an
absolute pleasure to be around. You love to make
new friends and be outgoing. You are a great flirt
and more than likely have an a very attractive
partner. a wicked hottie. It is also more than likely
that you have a massive record collection. You
have a great choice in films, and may one day
become a famous actor/actress yourself - heck,
you've got the looks for it!!! IN the next 6 days you
will meet someone that may possibly become
one of your closest friends, if you repost this in 5 minutes.
 
 
Jul
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JULY BABY
Fun to be with. Secretive. Difficult to fathom and to
be understood. Quiet unless excited or tensed.
Takes pride in oneself. Has reputation. Easily
consoled. Honest. Concerned about people's
feelings. Tactful. Friendly. Approachable.
Emotional temperamental and unpredictable.
Easily hurt. Witty and sparkly.
spazzy at times.
Not revengeful. Forgiving but never forgets.
dislikes nonsensical and unnecessary things.
Guides others physically and mentally. Sensitive
and forms impressions carefully. Caring and
loving. Treats others equally. Strong sense of
sympathy. Wary and sharp. Judges people
through observations. Hardworking. No difficulties
in studying. Loves to be with friends . Always broods
about the past and the old friends. Waits for
friends. Never looks for friends. Not aggressive
unless provoked. Loves to be loved. Easily hurt
but takes long to recover. Repost this in the next 5
mins and your reputation will boost someway in the next 12 days
 
 
Aug
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AUGUST BABY
outgoing personality. takes risks. feeds on
attention. no self control. kind hearted. self
confident. loud and boisterous. VERY revengeful.
easy to get along with and talk to. has an "every
thing's peachy" attitude. likes talking and singing.
loves music. daydreamer. easily distracted. Hates
not being trusted. BIG imagination. loves to be
loved. hates studying. in need of "that someone".
longs for freedom. rebellious when withheld or
restricted. lives by "no pain no gain" caring.
always a suspect. playful. mysterious. "charming"
or "beautiful" to everyone. stubborn. curious.
independent. strong willed. a fighter. repost in 5
mins and you will meet the love of your life
sometime next month.
 
 
Sep
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SEPTEMBER BABY
Active and dynamic. Decisive and haste but tends
to regret. Attractive and affectionate to oneself.
Strong mentality. Loves attention. Diplomatic.
Consoling, friendly and solves people's problems.
Brave and fearless. Adventurous. Loving and
caring. Suave and generous. Usually you have
many friends. Enjoys to make love. Emotional.
Stubborn. Hasty. Good memory. Moving, motivates
oneself and others. Loves to travel and explore.
Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover can
understand. if you do not repost this in the next 5
mins, someone very close to you will become mad
at you in the next 8 days.
 
 
Oct
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OCTOBER BABY
Loves to chat. Loves those who love them. Loves
to takes things at the centre. Inner and physical
beauty. Lies but doesn't pretend. Gets angry
often. Treats friends importantly. Brave and
fearless. Always making friends. Easily hurt but
recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does
not care to control emotions. Unpredictable.
Extremely smart, but definitely the hottest AND
sexiest of them all. repost this in 5 mins or you will
not meet the love of your life for 10 years.
 
 
Nov
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NOVEMBER BABY
Trustworthy and loyal. Very passionate and
dangerous. Wild at times. Knows how to have fun.
Sexy and mysterious. Everyone is drawn towards
your inner and outer beauty and independent
personality. Playful, but secretive. Very emotional
and temperamental sometimes. Meets new people
easily and very social in a group. Fearless and
independent. Can hold their own. Stands out in a
crowd. Essentially very smart. Usually, the
greatest men are born in this month. If you ever
begin a relationship with someone from this month,
hold on to them because their one of a kind. repost
in 5 mins & you will excel in a major event coming
up sometime this month.
 
 
Dec
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DECEMBER BABY
This straight-up means ur the most good-looking
person possible... better than all of these other
months! Loyal and generous. Patriotic. Competitive
in everything. Active in games and interactions.
Impatient and hasty. Ambitious. Influential in
organizations. Fun to be with. Easy to talk to,
though hard to understand. Thinks far with vision,
yet complicated to know. Easily influenced by
kindness. Polite and soft-spoken. Having lots of
ideas. Sensitive. Active mind. Hesitating, tends to
delay. Choosy and always wants the best.
Temperamental. Funny and humorous. Loves to
joke. Good debating skills. Has that someone
always on his/her mind. Talkative. Daydreamer.
Friendly. Knows how to make friends. Abiding.
Able to show character. one guy/girl kind of
person. Loveable. Easily hurt. Prone to getting
colds. loves music.

I Honestly Tried to Ignore You...

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I Honestly Tried to Ignore You..
I Honestly Tried to Ignore You..
I Honestly Tried to Let You Go..
I Honestly Tried to Forget You..
I Honestly Tried Not to Care For You..
I Honestly Tried Not to Think of You..
I Honestly Tried Not to Long For You..
But
I Honestly Can't 'cause
I Honestly Love You so
'n
I Honestly Want you You Always With Me..
Even if Sometimes i Get Hurt 'n Cry,
My Love For You Keeps Going Strong..

Even if we're Far Apart at Time,
A part of You Lives Deep Within Me..
You're The One i Want to Share My Life..
My Hopes, Dreams, Laughter,'n Tears...
Every Smile, Any Sorrow 'n Pain,
I Want You Always to be a Part of my Every Today,
Every Tomorrow 'n to Awaken Beside You Each Day.. !

I am sad because I miss you 'n love you...

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I'm sad because I miss you and I love you...
I'm not Angry
Because we broke up,

I'm sad because
I can't let you go..

I'm not angry at you
for not loving me,

I'm angry with me
for still loving you..

I'm not angry that
I lost you,

I'm sad because
I once had you..

I'm not angry that
I can't have you,

I'm sad because
I know what I'm missing..

I'm not angry that
you've moved on,

I'm sad because
I can't..

I'm not angry that
you won't come back,

I'm sad because
I keep hoping you will..

I'm not angry
because I hate you 'n don't want to,

I'm sad because
I miss you 'n I love you.. !

Conversation - Boy and Girl...

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Girl and Boy Conversation...
Girl: I'm always here for you

Boy: I know

Girl: What's wrong?

Boy: I like her so much

Girl: Talk to her

Boy: I don't know. She won't ever like me

Girl: Don't say that. You're amazing.

Boy: I just want her to know how I feel.

Girl: Then tell her.

Boy: She won't like me

Girl: How do you know that?

Boy: I can just tell.

Girl: Well just tell her.

Boy: What should I say

Girl: Tell her how much you like her

Boy: I tell her that daily.

Girl: what do you mean?

Boy: I'm always with her. I love her.

Girl: I know how you feel. I have the same problem. But he'll never like me

Boy: Wait. Who do you like?

Girl: Oh some boy

Boy: Oh... she won't like me either.

Girl: She does

Boy: How do you know..

Girl: Because, who wouldn't like you?

Boy: You

Girl: You're wrong, I love you

Boy: I love you too.

Girl: So are you going to talk to her?

Boy: I just did.

Always Give Your Hundred Percent In Any Relationship...

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Life is Beautiful...
A boy 'n a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her.

The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed.

The boy kept the biggest 'n the most beautiful marble aside 'n gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.

That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn’t sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.

Moral of the story:
If you don’t give your hundred percent in a relationship, you’ll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent.

Way to Get Success In Life...

Way to Get Success In Life...
Leave your Anger - Happiness begins
Leave your Harsh Words - Understanding Begins
Leave your Rudeness - Generosity begins
Leave your Bad Habits - Fun begins
Leave to Think You are The Best - Learning begins
Leave to be Blunt - Respect begins
Leave to Ignore - Love begins
Leave your Fear - Growth begins
Leave to Think You can Do it alone - Success begins
Leave to Think You can't Do it - Impossible becomes possible
Leave to Disrespect your elders - All other things unsaid here will begin..!

Everybody Doesn't Get That Someone...

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Some Nice Feelings...
Some Nice Feelings..:-)
When You Realize that you are valued by Someone..
When You Get Ready n Someone Says that you are Looking Good..
When Everyone Got Their Ice cream Cups Except You 'n Someone Give You One's Own Cup..
When Someone Knows Your Favorite Songs 'n Play only dose songs When You are around..
When Someone Call You or Text you For No Reason..
When Someone is Excited to See you Every time..
When Someone Tries to Find Reason To Talk To You..
So.....
Whenever you Find that "Someone"

Do VALUE Them 'coz Everybody Doesn't Get That Someone.. !

Never Get Mad At Someone you Love...

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Never Get Mad At Someone you Love
Girl: Hey baby i want to show you....
Boy: ( cutting her off ) Ugh I'm so mad
Girl: Why? Whats wrong ?
Boy: Ugh everything
Girl: Explain baby
Boy: Just lost a championship game,
parents flipped out on me for no reason,
'n im catching a cold
Girl: Well hey there will always be other games,
you know I'll take care of you when your sick,
what your parents flip about ?
Boy: They are making me pay them for a car repair
Girl: Is it a lot of money
Boy: No it just sucks
Boy: But hey I dont feel well I'm going to go lay down
Boy: Bye
Girl: Wait I want to give you some...
Boy: Can't It wait 'til tommorow ?
Girl: Yeah, sure
Girl: Bye
Boy: Bye


2 hours later a friend of hers asks her to go for a drive ...she
goes.....

Her friend swerved to avoid a truck....hitting a tree instead
Her friend was killed instantly....she's in critical condition


This is the conversation between her sister 'n her boyfriend.....

Sister: Omg ( crying )
Boy: What? Whats wrong ?
Sister: My sister...your girlfriend was involved in a major car wreck
Boy: Is she OK??????
Sister: She's in critical condition
Boy: I'll be there in 10 minutes


He shows up to the hospital room ...standing outside the door
going over the last conversation in his mind over 'n over as he
heard the machines beep 'n beep 'n breathing tubes pump oxygen into her lungs


Boy: She wanted to give me something or tell me something
Girls mom: Yeah this...It was an envelope smelling like she sealed it with a kiss in lipstick

He opened it.....

It said..... You're everything to me....I love you with everything I am
'n everything I have...I want to spend the rest of my life with you
Sealed in it was a ripped movie ticket from the first movie they went
to 'n the first picture they took together

He kissed the picture as a tear fell from his face onto the picture

It looked as if in the picture she was crying
Then the machines flat lined....3 minutes later she was pronounced dead....

Love is Always Beautiful when its true...

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Love is Always Beautiful when its true...

A Sweet Conversation Between Girl 'n Boy after Break-up...

Girl : Your New Girlfriend is Pretty
(Girl Thinks in Mind....Is she Really Pretty than Me ???)

Boy : Ya She is...!!
(Boy Thinks in mind....
But you are still the most Beautiful Girl i know)

Girl : I Heard that she is Funny 'n Amazing
(All the Stuff that i wasn't)

Boy : Sure She is...
(But she is nothing compared to you)

Girl : Well I Hope...You both last...
(We never did)

Boy : I Hope you do too...
(What Happened to You 'n Me...???)

Girl : Well...I gotta go....(Before i start Cry)

Boy : Ya me too...(I Hope you don't Cry)
Girl : Bye....(I Still Love you 'n Miss you)

Boy : See you Later..(I Will Never stop Loving you....Never Ever)

It's Challenge for you...

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Answer


if 3+3=30 and 1+1=2 and 2+2=10 then 4+4=?

3*3 + 3 = 30

1*3 + 1 = 2

2*3 + 2 = 10

4*3 + 4 = 68


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When people make you feel Unwanted...

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When People make you feel Unwanted...
When people make you feel unwanted,
Don't leave to make them feel Sad or Guilty,They won't.
Leave because you no longer have a reason to stay.
Sometimes you have to be strong for yourself.
What’s meant to be will end up good 'n what’s not - won’t.

Love is worth fighting for,
but sometimes you can’t be the only one fighting.

At times, people need to fight for you.
If they don’t, you just have to move on
'n
Realize what you gave them was more than
they were willing to give you !

Meaning of smile...

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Meaning of smile...
Smile

Smile Means... Happiness to Others
Smile Means... Live Happy
Smile Means... Living life
Smile Means... Happy moment
Smile Means... Full joy in life


Meaning of Smile when you are in love

Smile Means... Like Someone
Smile Means... Missing Someone
Smile Means... Love Someone
Smile Means... Crazy for Someone


meaning of Smile when Someone Hurts You


Smile Means... Hiding of tears
Smile Means... Trying Forget Past
Smile Means... Left sorrow
Smile Means... Away from All Tension
Smile Means... Searching Again of Someone


But Real Meaning of smile


S : Sweet
M : Memories
I :  In
L :  Life for
E : Everyone.. !

Installing Husband...

Installing Husband...
A desperate woman writes to the Technical support Guy:

Dear Tech Support,

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 'n I noticed a distinct slowdown in the overall system performance, particularly in the flower 'n jewellery applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 'n Personal Attention 6.5, 'n then installed undesirable programs such as NEWS 5.0, MONEY 3.0 'n CRICKET 4.1.

Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, 'n Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.

Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail.

What can I do?

Signed,

Desperate Woman



She got a reply back from the Technical Support Guy.



DEAR DESPERATE Madam,

First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system.

Please enter command: i thought you loved me. html 'n try to download Tears 6.2 'n do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update. If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewellery 2.0 'n Flowers 3.5.

However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default to Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0 or Beer 6.1. Please note that Beer 6. 1 is a very bad program that will download the Farting 'n Snoring Loudly Beta.

Whatever you do, DO NOT under any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources.)

In addition, please do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend 5.0 program. These are unsupported applications 'n will crash Husband 1.0.

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory 'n cannot learn new applications quickly.

You might consider buying additional software to improve memory 'n performance. We recommend: Cooking 3.0 'n Hot Looks 7.7.

Good Luck Madam!

Tech Support

4 boy friends‏...

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Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect...
Once upon a time there was this girl who had four boyfriends.

She loved the 4th boyfriend the most 'n adored him with rich robes 'n treated him to the finest of delicacies. She gave him nothing but the best.


She also loved the 3rd boyfriend very much 'n was always showing him off to neighboring kingdoms. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another.



She also loved her 2nd boyfriend. He was her confidant 'n was always kind, considerate 'n patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, 'n he would help her get through the difficult times.

The girls 1st boyfriend was a very loyal partner 'n had made great contributions in maintaining her wealth 'n kingdom. However, she d id not love the first boyfriend. Although he loved her deeply, she hardly took notice of him!

One day, the girl fell ill 'n she knew her time was short. She thought of her luxurious life 'n wondered, I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, I'll be all alone.'

Thus, she asked the 4th boyfriend, 'I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing 'n showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me 'n keep me company?'

'No way!', replied the 4th boyfriend, 'n he walked away without another word..

His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart.

The sad girl then asked the 3rd boyfriend, 'I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me 'n keep me company?'


'No!', replied the 3rd boyfriend. 'Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to marry someone else!'


Her heart sank 'n turned cold.

She then asked the 2nd boyfriend, 'I have always
turned to you for help 'n you've always been there for me.

When I die, will you follow me 'n keep me company?'

'I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!', replied the 2nd boyfriend. 'At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave.'

His answer struck her like a bolt of lightning, 'n the girl was devastated.

Then a voice called out: 'I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go..'

The girl looked up, 'n there was his first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition 'n neglect.

Greatly grieved, the girl said, 'I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!'

In truth, you have 4 boyfriends in your lives:

Your 4th boyfriend is your body. No matter how much time 'n effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die.


Your 3rd boyfriend is your possessions, status 'n wealth.When you die, it will all go to others.


Your 2nd boyfriend is your family 'n friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave.

'n your 1st boyfriend is your Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power 'n pleasures of the world.

However, your Soul is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go.Cultivate, strengthen 'n cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you to the throne of God 'n continue with you throughout Eternity.

Thought for the day:Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees,you're in the perfect position to pray.

Pass this on to someone you care about - I just did.

Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect. It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.. !


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Slow Tears...

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Slow Tears
I look up
as a tear rolls slowly
down my cheek
I think about better days
'n wonder if I'll feel that way again
you look at me
with those eyes I know so well
always serious, so deep 'n insightful
as though you're always in control
But not today
not now
Now you look so scared
like for once you don't have the answer
I gaze at you
looking deep into those hazel eyes
Hoping to understand
why you've said those things you did
I wonder for a moment
if this is all a dream
if I shall wake in the morning
'n be relieved
you look at me
with a confusion I have never seen
slowly pull me towards you
'n wipe the tears from my cheek.. !

7 Tips Getting Over a Break Up...

Getting Over a Break Up

1. Letting Go

What would you do if your house was burnt to the ground, 'n everything you owned was destroyed? I’m sure you’d be frustrated 'n angry at first, but at the same time, no amount of anger will undo what has been done. It is what it is. Your best bet is to begin moving on, 'n working towards creating a new home.

Similarly, when a relationship ends, you’ll want to practice letting go 'n allowing the healing process to begin quickly.

If you were on the receiving end of a breakup, do not dwell on whether the person will come back or not, if they broke up with you at one point, chances are, something is wrong with the fit of your partnership, 'n you’ll be better appreciated elsewhere, with someone else. Even if you 'n the ex get back together, it is unlikely to last (from my experience).

Trust that everything in the Universe happens for a reason, 'n it benefits everyone involved in the long run, even if the benefits are not yet clear. Trust that this is the best possible thing to happen to you right now, 'n the reasons will become clear in the future.

2. Release Tension 'n Bundled Up Energy

We all have the need to be understood 'n heard. Whether we’re on the receiving end or the initiating end of a breakup, we often carry with us the tension 'n any unexpressed emotions. We can release this extra energy by:

Talking about it with a friend.
Voicing our opinions honestly 'n openly with our ex-partner, which have been bottled up in the past.
Punching a pillow 'n crying freely for 10 minutes
Screaming out aloud 'n imagining unwanted energy being released with your voice (seriously, I’ve done a meditation that incorporated this, 'n I instantly felt better).
Writing in a journal (more on this later).
Exercise 'n body movement.
Meditating.

3. Love Yourself

The practice of loving yourself is the most important aspect on the road to personal happiness 'n emotional stability. I’ve personally had my most valuable personal growth spurts during the period when I vigorously worked on this aspect of my life.

I did everything from cooking myself fancy dinners, to spending every Sunday on my own doing the things that I loved, to taking myself to Symphonies, to taking overseas trips on my own. Each one had its own challenges 'n confronted my beliefs about loneliness. Through overcoming the fear of loneliness, I experienced deep joy all by myself. It was so gratifying, refreshing 'n empowering.

Here are some ideas to cultivate the art of loving yourself:

Take yourself on romantic dates as if you were on a date with another person. Put on nice clothes, maybe buy yourself flowers, treat yourself to something delicious, 'n take long walks under the stars. Whatever your idea of a romantic date is.

Look at yourself in the mirror. Look yourself in the eyes. Smile slightly with your eyes. Practice giving gratitude to what you see. You don’t need words. Just send out the intent of giving an abundance of love to the eyes that you see, 'n feel the feelings of love within you. As you are looking into your eyes, look for something you admire about your eyes – maybe the color, the shape, the depth, the exoticness, or even the length of your eye lashes. This will be a little weird 'n uncomfortable at first, but just trust me, 'n continue with it. Do this for a few minutes every day.

Sit or stand in front of a mirror, or sit somewhere comfortable (mix it up, 'n do both on different days), put both hands on your chest 'n say to yourself, “I love you, ”. Repeat a few times, slowly. Continue with qualities you like about yourself, or things you are good at. Be generous 'n list many, even if they sound silly. Example, “I love that you always know how to make your salads so colorful 'n appetizing.”, “I love that you have the discipline to go to the gym regularly, 'n you really take care of your body.”, “I love that you are so neat, 'n can keep your desk so organized.”

Practice doing things on your own to challenge your fear of being alone. For example, if you have a fear of eating alone in a restaurant, go out to a restaurant on your own. Your mission is to find the joy within that experience.

4. Love Your Ex-Partner

Allow the love within you to flow. Try practicing forgiveness 'n open up your heart.

Over the past few months, my friend Tom Stine 'n I have been chatting about the topic of overcoming breakups. Tom had been married for 13 years 'n went through a divorce that took him 2 years to emotionally recover from. When asked about how he got over his ex-wife, he had a few snippets of wisdom to convey:

“I let myself love her. Even when it felt like my heart was going to break. Adyashanti says something amazing – when people say, ‘My heart feels like it is going to break.’ He says, ‘Let it break. If you let it really break – really, really break, it will transform you.’”
 


“LET YOUR HEART BREAK WIDE OPEN. Let go of every possible belief or thought that says your ex is anything other than the most incredible, amazing, wonderful person in the Universe. You gotta love them 'n open your broken heart, WIDE OPEN!!!! That’s how to get over a break-up, really get over it. Anything short of that is not gonna do it.”

“The key for me was getting utterly clear: we are apart, 'n the Universe never makes mistakes. We are over. 'n I can still love her. That was HUGE. I can love her with all my heart 'n soul 'n we never have to be together. 'n when I realized that, I felt amazing. 'n still do. The freedom was great. I could finally own-up to how much I wanted out of our relationship. All the hurt 'n anger disappeared. I was free.”

The underlying message of love in Tom’s words is pretty clear 'n powerful.




5. Give it Time

It takes time to heal. Be patient. Give it more time. I promise the storm will end, 'n the sun will peak through the clouds.

6. Journal Your Experience

Spend some quality time in a comfortable chair, at your desk or at a café, 'n write your thoughts 'n feelings on paper. No, not typing on a laptop, writing on paper with a pen. Follow your heart 'n flow freely, but if you’re stuck, here are some writing exercises you can do:

Drill into the why – Start with a question or statement, 'n continue to drill into why you feel that way until you have a truthful 'n satisfying reason. The exercise isn’t to issue blame or blow off steam at someone else. It’s meant to gain clarity 'n understanding into how you feel, so you can alleviate unnecessary pain. For example, you might start with the statement, “I am in a lot of pain, ouch!”, 'n your why might be “because she left me”. Now ask yourself, “why does that hurt so much?”, 'n one possible why might be, “because I feel abandoned”. The following why to “why does feeling abandoned hurt so much?”, “because it makes me feel alone”, etc. More than likely, the real reason has something to do with our own insecurities or fears.

Finding the Lessons
– What did you learn from the relationship? What did you learn from the other person? How is your life better because of it? How will your future relationships be better because of it?

7. Read Something Inspirational

Books that deal with our emotions 'n ego are incredible tools at a time of healing. They help to enlighten our understanding of ourselves 'n our experiences.

Beautiful letter written by a father to his son...

Beautiful letter written by a father to his son...

Following is a letter to his son from a renowned HongKong TV broadcaster/ Child Psychologist. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.! This applies to daughters too. All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear son ,

I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons:

1. Life, fortune 'n mishaps are unpredictable; nobody knows how long he lives. Some words are better said early.

2. I am your father, 'n if I don't tell you these, no one else will.

3. What is written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches.

Remember the following as you go through life

1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother 'n I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it 'n be thankful, 'n ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.

2. No one is indispensable, nothing in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what/who you love most.

3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

4. Love is but a transient feeling, 'n this feeling would fade with time 'n with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches 'n sadness. Don't over exaggerate the beauty 'n sweetness of love, 'n don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

7. You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!

9. No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.


Your Dad
Regards,